Tuesday, June 29, 2010

Laura María Agustín embedded


Wow, I found some really cool movies with Laura María Agustín in it. She says her father's a spy, and she has lived everywhere! She actually really looks like a very nice person to me!

The following clips are smaller parts of a whole of which the whole you can find further ahead in this post:

Now, all complete in one clip:

And here's another clip:

Sunday, June 27, 2010

No link between working in prostitution and post traumatic stress


I have had some reactions on my blog which purport to say that working in prostitution causes irreversible psychological damage, or as they say this, post traumatic stress. The funny thing is that this is absolutely not the case!!!! I can empirically prove that working in prostitution in itself has no negative effects on emotional well being. But for me personally, it doesn't answer the question if it is okay then to have sex with a person who detests having sex with you (as in my case by visiting prostitutes). And it doesn't mean that there are no problems with human traffickers or exploitation and the such (always worrisome). And I don't make this claim to provocate people.

I'll provide some links to reports with some quotes.

The first report by Charrlotte Seib from New Zealand:

Seib, Charrlotte (2007) Health, well-being and sexual violence among female sex workers : a comparative study. [QUT Thesis]

"Sex workers interviewed in 2003 (after legalisation) were compared to a prior study of this population conducted in 1991 (before official regulation of the sex industry). Further, in-depth analysis of the 2003 cohort compared sex workers employed in legal and illegal sectors, to assess violence, health status and job satisfaction. Methods: Cross-sectional, convenience sampling was used to collect data from female sex workers in 2003."

"In general, it appears that the majority of sex workers enjoyed at least as much job satisfaction as women working in other occupations. It also appears that this sample had equivalent mental health to women from the general population, although the sub-group of illegal workers generally had poorer health."

The next report (with the quotes retrieved from prostitution.procon.org):

Sarah Romans, MD, et al., in the Feb. 2001 Australian and New Zealand Journal of Psychiatry article "The Mental and Physical Health of Female Sex Workers: A Comparative Study," wrote:
"There were no differences in mental health... or in self-esteem... between the two groups [female prostitutes and females who weren't prostitutes].... Overall, despite any personal problems arising from the particular nature of their work, these women described as adequate relationships with partners, friends and work colleagues. Two papers have suggested that sex workers have high rates of psychological symptoms; however, both used convenience samples and lacked a comparison group making interpretation of the results difficult. Our results challenge prevailing ideas that sex work and psychiatric morbidity are inevitably associated."

A Dutch report:
Evaluatie opheffing bordeelverbod - De sociale positie van prostituees 2006 (by Helga Dekker, Ruud Tap and Ger Homburg)
Here's the link

This report which studied 354 prostitutes in the Netherlands gives in my opinion a surprisingly good representation of indoor prostitutes if you look at their workplace and background.

Quote (translated from Dutch from page 81):
"The emotional well-being, measured on the 4DKL-scale for distress, doesn't stand out in a negative way compared to that of other women. Prostitutes in privéhuizen [brothels without bar] and window prostitutes do show a little higher degree of distress, which can point at stress, for example by overload, problems or unpleasant events in life."

Saturday, June 26, 2010

No link between testosterone and sex drive


I have to apologize to all the women in the world.

I must conclude after hours of deliberating with myself that there cannot be a link between the level of testosterone in your blood and your sex drive. That means that my proposition that women have the sex drive of ten-year-old children cannot hold.

The evidence:


If it were true that there was a relationship between testosterone and sex drive, there cannot ever be female porn addicts.

I already found reports which show the surprising results that men and women with higher testosterone levels don't have a higher libido (at least, very little, see this post for the sources).

However, there are men who have a disfunction which causes their bodies (balls) to produce less testosterone, so their testosterone levels are way lower than those of any other guy, but still higher than those of many women. These men have a low libido. My current explanation is that this is caused by the fact that men's bodies have difficulties functioning properly with low levels of testosterone, which has the indirect effect that their libido drop.

At last, why do women seem less interested in watching porn, having sex in general and visiting (male) prostitutes? It cannot have any other reason than because somehow society teaches them to be that way.

An example of a female porn addict:
Struggling Alone with Pornography - A female student talks about her addiction to pornography. By Jennifer M. (on everystudent.com)

Some interesting articles:
Addiction to porn is not limited to men (Lancaster Online Jul 06, 2008)
Porn: It's Not Just for Men Anymore (on 'Humanism by Joe', Joseph C. Sommer, Author, Attorney at Law, Humanist)
66% of women watch porn (By Dulcie Pearce, The Sun, 2 April 2009), from this survey it emerges that a quarter of the men watch porn every day, and 6% of the women watch it every day! That is a difference, but that 6% surprises me a lot!

(Here's one interesting survey too among college students:
College student attitudes toward pornography use [College Student Journal, June, 2007 by Sarah O'Reilly, David Knox, Marty E. Zusman]. This one says that: "Their frequency of viewing pornography was also higher with 31.7% % of men and 3.8% of women reporting that they view pornography three to five times a week". So here the differences are bigger.)

And, actually there turns out to be no link between testosterone and violence too!!! Because lesbian couples are on average at least as violent as heterosexual couples (funny, I didn't know that):
Study: Intimate violence greater for gays, lesbians than heteros (digital journal, by Carol Forsloff, April 29 2010)

And also ..... women are not choosier than men when it comes to picking a lover! An experiment with a speed date revealed that when women rotate instead of men, women become less choosy than men. So it seems that the thought that women are naturally much more choosy than men is not true. This is probably caused by social conditioning too! Source:
Role reversal undermines speed-dating theories (Nature, July 2nd 2009)
This is probably the report:
Arbitrary Social Norms Influence Sex Differences in Romantic Selectivity (Eli J. Finkel and Paul W. Eastwick, Northwestern University, in Psychological Science, Volume 20—Number 10, pages 1290-1295, 2009)

Quote from nature article: "The researchers established 15 speed-dating events for 350 young adults. During eight events, men rotated around the seated women, and during seven events, women moved between seated men. When men rotated, men said yes 50% of the time and women said yes 43% of the time. However, when women rotated, the trend for higher female selectivity vanished, with men saying yes 43% of the time while women said yes 45% of the time."

Quote from Psychological Science report: "In a recent, large-scale study of on-line dating behavior, for example, men were approximately 1.5 times more likely than women to send a first-contact e-mail after viewing a given opposite-sex person's on-line dating profile—an effect that is all the more striking when considering that men browsed approximately twice as many profiles in the first place (Hitsch, Hortac¸su, & Ariely, 2009). In a well-controlled study, men were more willing than women to go on a date with an attractive opposite-sex target depicted in a photograph (Townsend & Wasserman, 1998). In addition, across three samples, men were approximately 1.2 times more likely than women (58% vs. 48%) to accept a date from an opposite-sex research confederate who approached them on campus (R.D. Clark, 1990; R.D. Clark & Hatfield, 1989)."

After reading all this am I totally surprised. I thought that women were FAR MORE choosy about picking men than men were about picking women, like 10 times or a 100 times more choosy. It turns out that this is only one and a half times more choosy. That is in my opinion not much. And even this is probably influenced by social factors.

Women and men are more alike than I thought. Perhaps that women and men have an in-born sex identity, but perhaps they don't differ much more.

More Reading:
The Gender Similarities Hypothesis (Janet Shibley Hyde, American Psychologist, September 2005)

Wednesday, June 23, 2010



Anonymous posted on my blog and what she writes is so well-written that I decided to post it here:

I was interested to see you say the ‘notorious human traffickers are starting to disappear.’ It certainly seems to be the direction of opinion at the moment.

Where once the press would trumpet the arrest of brothel owners and individual men and women denounced by prostitutes as the “tip of the iceberg” of a horrific and widespread problem, now they are dismissed as lover’s squabbles which got out of hand, a practical step to keep the immigration service at bay or as a way out of feeling ashamed for women who have worked as prostitutes and been discovered.

We live in a world led by marketing, a process which seeks to put a price on everything and to deliver any service to a customer who can pay. No thought is given to individual consequences: there is no money in that. Individuals can take charge of their own lives, and this freedom can be a heartless process.

Truth too, is a consumer product. Once it was fashionable to label all prostitutes as slaves, particularly if they were foreign, with no thought for the poverty the women endeavoured to escape, or why their often recently impoverished home countries were so poor.
This was a big story - a truly horrifying scandal, and reputations were made on it, both by academics and journalists. Newspapers are sold and academic papers are read when the victims number in the many tens of thousands.
And now we are to believe there are none, and that trafficking does not exist: another scandal is born, another line of academic enquiry begins, now investigating trafficking’s exaggeration. Another set of reputations are made when this exaggeration is exposed.

The existence, nature and prevalence of trafficking is so politicised now, partly because it is so emotive, and also because it is a central issue in the battle over whether or not prostitution should be legalised, how it should be controlled, and whether it should be controlled at all. This has caused so much distortion it seems to me impossible now to determine the truth.

Both sides of this debate have their facts and figures, all disputed of course, and all seem subject to significant subjectivity and shortcomings of technique. Just as when you ask your MP, “have you ever fiddled your expenses?” he will reply “no,” whether he has or not.
Large numbers of studies have been made; often they contradict each other. Great credence is placed on individual reports which are often in reality only a doctoral thesis written by a student whose parameters have been conceived in order to demonstrate a particular point of view and reach a pre determined outcome, often a controversial one which will be noticed (trafficking does not exist, or it s almost everywhere – even on your own high street.)
Such reports must be treated with caution, since their methodology is often flawed, seem to serve predetermined ends and are written in non neutral language which is at times deliberately obscure and laced with academic jargon.

I believe that there probably are women working as prostitutes in the Netherlands, or Great Britain or wherever, who do so against their will. Some of these will also have been “traditionally trafficked”. How many they number and even their identity will be virtually impossible to discover.
I also believe that the number of these truly forced women has probably been exaggerated - that many more are simply working in prostitution as a job, entirely willingly or at least compelled by circumstance rather than violence, though that is not to say they find it in any way enjoyable.

Tuesday, June 22, 2010



Okay, this is not really about prostitution in the Netherlands, but I just want to check out the embed functionality.

Monday, June 21, 2010

All women like chocolate


Whahaha!!!! I came across a forum about asexuality. What one person says is so true!!!! I laughed my ass off, and I want to share it with the rest of the world (I have to watch out that my blog doesn't turn into an anti-sexuality blog by the way). Now the quote (emphases mine):
Something doesnt make sense to me. If women are lustful for sex, why arent they going around trying to get it like how guys do??

I did an experiment, I put pictures of an attractive male and an attractive female on a site. And the female got lots of different guys sending messages, some were quite straight to the point about wanting sex, others appeared more into small talk. The male got no messages.

I see and hear about the same thing going on in person with people

And times have changed, and women seem to be admired for being independant, so why arent alot of women going around trying to get different people to have sex, like how alot of guys do?

They say that they only enjoy the sex when its with someone whom they love and trust. So do they like the sex or do they like the love and trust? do they simply love the guy so much that they like making him happy with sex??

It just seems odd for someone to say they're sexual and then not be persuing it. Its like someone saying they like chocolate and then going to the store and saying "Im just gona stand around here and wait for someone to give me chocolate, but im only gona eat the chocolate if I love and trust that person."

so is it just the love and care they're after?? are all women asexual??

This is what I'm wondering lately too!!!!

Actually, I have to admit that regarding prostitution in the Netherlands it is starting to become groundhog day. There is very little news. It also seems as if the notorious evil human traffickers are starting to disappear!! Surely, there are some news items about brothel owners getting arrested and some individual men and women who are denounced by prostitutes. But it all seems to be about conflicts between prostitutes and their lovers or friends getting out of hand. However, the Foundation Against Trafficking in Women (Comensha now) is still publishing numbers. Here are the latest numbers. Some highlights are that still many women forced in prostitution are Dutch and that still many women forced in prostitution work in regulated brothels. Still, I'm beginning to doubt these numbers. Anyone can call Comensha and say that he or she met a forced prostitute who worked in ...... at ......... . There is no evidence.

I'm becoming a human trafficking sceptic like Laura Agustin. There is no human trafficking. Prostitution is a noble profession, much more humane and a lot safer than other professions. Women who say they are forced simply say that because they are ashamed. And then they press charges against their innocent (boy)friends or managers, who then are put in jail because the judges don't dare to challenge innocent victims. It is the taboo surrounding that really is the problem. Women who work in prostitution who are ashamed only have themselves to blame. They should fight their own inhibitions and learn that the things that men do to them are perfectly natural and well-intended.

( .... cynical .... )